“You probably know someone playing a Cool Girl in real life, and you probably resent her — unless you’re a straight dude, in which case you probably think she’s great. But Lawrence performs Cool Girlness with such skill, such seamlessness, that it doesn’t seem like a performance at all. I’m not suggesting that Lawrence is intentionally inauthentic, scheming, or manipulative: Rather, like all the Cool Girls you know, she’s subconsciously figured out what makes people like her, and she’s using it. But is this persona truly “cool,” or is it a reflection of society’s unreasonable and contradictory expectations of women?”
I’m pretty conflicted by this piece on the history of the “Cool Girl”. As a girl who is into video games, I am often lumped into this category, but I certainly don’t feel like my “persona” is an act, as much as any public personality is an act. (At home I just drool and make soft mewling noises while wearing rags.)
I’ve certainly had an issue, in my young adult years, of putting on a facade that was uncomfortable for me. I call her the Punk Rock Stepford Wife, and she was the version of me that put up with being treated like shit by men, because to acknowledge that they hurt me was to acknowledge that they mattered at all. It was a miserable time for me. I was uncomfortable daily, but outwardly, I was a badass with pink hair, piercings, and tattooed boyfriends. I came to a slow realization that this performance I was putting on wasn’t even being noticed by anyone, and it was only hurting me. I slowly put her on the shelf. I don’t know if my Punk Rock Stepford Wife was a “Cool Girl”, but her self-esteem level sucked and I felt bad for her.
To me, “Cool Girls” are treated the same as women who choose to be housewives. Any women who make a choice that is contradictory to what’s expected of them are often told, by feminists, that they aren’t thinking for themselves. That they’re just conforming to social norms and that they are secretly miserable. Housewives, and now Cool Girls, are patted on the hand sadly and patronizingly by feminists for not being smart enough to realize how bad off they are. Well, I’m not fucking miserable, and I am who I am with intention and pride.
I have literally never seen a post about the history of the “cool guy”, the Errol Flynns/Steve McQueens/James Deans/George Clooneys/Leo DiCaprios of our world, and how they can’t possibly exist in reality and therefore are just fucking things up for the rest of men.
To me, this just smacks of more of us ladies clawing at each other rather than trying to raise each other up- even if we like chicken wings and are pretty and play basketball and win Oscars.
(But the info about Clara Bow and etc was interesting….)
Am I reading too much into this? Is this patronizing as fuck, or is it just me?
Yeah this seems super patronizing. As if girls cant be likeable in a variety of socially acceptable and challenging ways. I guess it’s good to tell young girls they don’t have to be cool, that is important. But I mean, everybody’s so young here when we are talking about “cool girls”, it takes time to grow up and figure this stuff out anyways, famous actresses included.
We should all be so lucky as to ” subconsciously figure out what makes people like us, and use it” She’s a fucking hollywood actress of course she’s charming and likeable in public. Lots of people are fake and pretending in a lot of worse ways, and lots are authentic in worse ways. I’m a bit off topic but that’s because I don’t care whether or not Jennifer Lawrence is fake or real or whatever because she doesn’t seem like a monster.
Beautiful Girls 1996
This movie is great and important for me and i have and will continue to reference it for style/life pursuits.
Also, Timothy Hutton in this movie is probably the guy I ideally see myself with someday and maybe that is part of my problem? Are we all Tracys, my friends and I? Good solid 7.5s? I don’t think so. Though maybe most decent human beings are 7.5s.
A Cafe Full of Good-Looking People and Nowhere to Sit
Short Couples in public
Guys That Look Like That Guy I Don’t Want to See
Couples that look like that guy I don’t want to see and his girlfriend in public
The Inevitable Decline of my Corner on Sleeveless Hoodies for Girls.
Which Fear Won Out Today?